Sunday, January 25, 2009

Scot McKay The Leading Man Review

This article is about The Leading Man review, it's a relationship management system designed by Scot McKay.

Do you feel like you are not wearing the pants in the relationship?

Do you find yourself in relationships with no meaning to them?

Are you having difficutlies managing a lasting relationship?

The great news is that Scot McKay has designed a program just for guys who can get a girl but have troubles keeping her.

A lot of men know how to seduce women but very few know how to actually manage one. They simply have no idea how to keep the relationship going.

I know I had this issue like many of the guys out there.

The program The Leading Man teaches you how to be the man that wears the pants in the relationship. You'll learn how to get a woman glued to your side and know how to be a man in a relationship. Oh, the good thing is he also teaches you how to deal with drama!

The package is very comprehensive and has many hours of both audio and text support. This makes it perfect for the busy guy who just wants to listen to the program instead of reading pages worth of material.

What really stands out about the program is that it is probably the only thing out there designed specifically to teach man how to handle relationships. This is a course for relationships and is not about pickup or seduction. This means if you are a complete newbie this program is probably not for you yet. But, if you're in the position to be able to get girls but don't know how to deal with relationships or keep them. This is exactly the course for you.

I have done a full review of it here, and you should check it out: Scot McKay The Leading Man

 

Building Your Confidence And Becoming A "Bad Boy"

by Dean Cortez, creator of the How To Be A Bad Boy System

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Hey Dean,

My friends tell me my biggest obstacle with girls is that I'm "too nice." I have lots of female friends, but therein lies the challenge: they think of me only as a friend.

There was one girl in particular who I had grown very close to. We met on an online dating site and we started hanging out all the time. I thought it was going to progress to a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, but then her jerk ex-boyfriend showed up and ruined everything. He had left town for a period, but then he showed up again, and started bugging her about wanting to be her boyfriend again.

She'd told me all about this guy -- he treated her badly, cheated on her, smoked a ton of dope, and was always borrowing money from her. (He's a wanna-be rock n' roll musician, covered in tattoos, rides a Harley, the whole deal.)

Well, even though she used to always tell me sob stories about how awful he was, guess what happened -- she got back together with him!

It seems like "nice guys" like me always get the shaft, and the "bad boys" have this HOLD over women. Girls can't resist them! Am I doomed to keep losing out to the jerks?  

I need to get a handle on my dating life. I understand it's a process of development, like you explained at one of your seminars. But how can I speed things up?

- Richard, New Jersey

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Dean Cortez from MackTactics.com replies:

Richard, you hit the nail on the head when you referred to this as a “process of development.” It is an ongoing mission. There are no magic solutions that are going to transform you into a cocky, confident, smooth “ladies’ man” overnight.

If you believe that there is “system” that WILL make you an invincible stud in 24 hours, then I’ve got some beachfront property in Iraq I want to sell you…

But seriously, making the decision to handle your dating life is like starting an exercise program. You're not going to look like some jacked-up UFC fighter after only a few trips to the gym.

It's a process, and mastering the physical part (how to do each exercise properly) is equally important as the mental part (committing yourself to making lasting, long-term improvements).

Your question, basically, is why women are so deeply attracted to "bad boys" -- and you're wondering if you can make some adjustments to your OWN game to make women feel deeper attraction to YOU.  

The #1 quality of Bad Boys, that women go for, is their massive sense of self-confidence. It often crosses the line into "arrogance," but y'know what? Women are biologically programmed to respond to this type of guy. Women are always going to feel curious and attracted to a guy who exudes total confidence, even if he seems a little cocky. Bad Boys control their own reality; they don't really care what anyone else thinks.  

I used to buy a lot of books on dating and personal improvement, and they all basically said the same thing: “You’ve got to be more confident." "Women are totally into guys who are confident.”

Blah blah…

Duh! That's totally obvious. The question is, how do you GET that sense of "Bad Boy Confidence" that women love, and stop being the nice guy who women won't sleep with?

It’s like telling a short guy, “Be taller. Then you'll get more phone numbers and dates.”

Or telling a skinny guy, “You should be a big, muscular hunk. Chicks dig that.”

Um, yeah, OK…but how the heck is that realistically possible?!

Bulletproof confidence IS possible for you to develop. But the so-called "pickup artist" experts aren't able to offer practical advice about it. So let me do that right now.

CONFIDENCE IS BUILT THROUGH SUCCESS, AND SUCCESS IS BUILT THROUGH SKILL.

It’s a three-step process:

1. Learn the tactics and skills you need to talk to women.

2. As a result, you start being more successful with women.

3. The more success you enjoy, the more confident you become.

Does that sound simple? Actually, yeah, it is.

When you learn the lessons in the Bad Boy Seduction program, you'll be able to add that confident "edge" without ever being a jerk. No matter what your background is, or what you do for a living, you can start leading a more attractive, exciting bad boy lifestyle.

You're going to find that it's a lot easier to meet women and get conversations going, on YOUR terms. (Instead of always feeling like you need to IMPRESS women.)

As a result, you'll have more positive interactions with women. Instead of blowing you off, or never returning your phone calls, you’re going to start meeting new women on a regular basis. 

Walking up to a pretty girl at the gym, or the book store, or the coffee shop, is easy. It's easy for you to walk up to her, break the ice, and get her interested in knowing you.

Women don’t look at you as a weird, creepy dude who is trying to hit on them. They see you as a cool, interesting guy with a playful, cocky "edge" -- and they are curious to know more.  

This is going to make you feel good, and your confidence level will rise. You start to realize that approaching beautiful women -- or dating two or three girls at the same time!! -- is certainly never impossible. It’s not this scary, painful thing. It’s actually a lot of fun!

But you’ve got to learn to walk before you run. The trick is to start building your confidence in small steps. If you only measure “success” in terms of nailing hot chicks, or landing your “dream girlfriend,” you’re probably going to keep feeling frustrated and disappointed.

You can make progress tonight, or tomorrow…whenever you leave your house with a  social attitude. And I’m not just talking about going to “social environments” like bars and nightclubs. Yesterday, I went to my local computer store to check out some laptops, and left with a REALLY cute girl’s email address.

I didn’t even get her phone number. Just her email address. That’s all I needed. We chatted on the internet for a little while last night, and tomorrow we're going to meet up.

So over the next week, I want you to make this a goal: you’re going to meet three new women and get their email addresses.

NOT their phone numbers. Just get their email!

AND, you’re not going to try to “trap” girls into talking to your for 20 or 30 minutes.

YOU will be the one to end the conversation first!

This is important, so listen up…

See, the average guy thinks a conversation is a “success” if he can keep the girl talking for a long period of time. He’ll meet a girl and tell her his entire life story in the first half-hour!

As long as she isn’t blowing him off, and she’s answering his questions, he thinks he’s making progress.

Actually, she’s probably getting a bit BORED of this guy, but she’s too polite to walk away…

I want you to take the opposite approach. For the next week, I want you to go into conversations KNOWING that you’re only going to spend 5 minutes talking to her. Then, you’re going to get her email address, move on, and contact her the next day.

Talk to girls using the techniques that we lay out in our Bad Boy Seduction book and DVD program, and after 5 minutes, tell her, “Well it was nice meeting you, I can tell we’ve got some things to talk about. (Or, “I can tell we’ve got some things in common.") Well, I need to be going... wait, do you have email?”

Notice how I phrased it. (PHRASING – choosing your words strategically – is a big part of being successful with women, and it’s all explained in the M.A.C.K. Tactics book.)

I didn’t say, “Can I get your email address?”

I didn’t say, “Do you mind if I email you sometime?”

I didn’t say, “How can I contact you?”

Instead, I said: “Do you have email?”

Of course she has email! Everyone does. She’ll say “yes,” and now you’re going to take our your little notebook and pen (you should ALWAYS carry these two items) and hand them to her. Tell her, "write it down.”

BOOM. Done deal.

See, when you ask a girl for PERMISSION, this gives her the opportunity to say “no.”

If you ask her, “Can I get your phone number?”, she might think of the NEGATIVE possibilities. (Maybe this guy is going to call me all the time and annoy me…or, maybe he’s going to call me and ask me out on a date, and then it will be awkward for me, because I’m not sure about him yet…)

But when you simply say to her, "Do you have email?", and give her the paper and pen, she probably won’t think twice about it. She’ll write down her email address, and then you’ll go on your way, and contact her tomorrow!

Are you with me?

Do this two or three times over the next week, and I guarantee you are going to feel a confidence boost like you haven’t felt in a LONG time.

And if you go to bars or clubs, stop taking an “all or nothing” view: “I’ve got to hook up with a girl TONIGHT, or else I’m a pussy and I’m wasting my time and money and how come all the girls are so stuck-up...”

Just have short, fun conversations – using the methods we explain and get her email address and move on. You might meet an even cuter girl five minutes later!

For now, I want you to enjoy a few short, fun conversations with women…no pressure, no big expectations…and go home with some email addresses. You can set up dates, and as this is happening, you are re-framing your mindset to be more successful.

In the past, when you were talking to an attractive girl, you were probably thinking “where do I take it from here? What should I talk to her about next? How can I make sure I don't seem lame or boring?”

NOW you’re thinking, “I’m only going to give this girl five minutes of my time, and I’ll contact her on email tomorrow if I decide I want to take it further. This is a normal part of my lifestyle, it's no big thing.”

Start having lots of these “mini-conversations” in which YOU are the busy guy who needs to go. Leave her wanting to know more. You're going to quickly develop a much more confident attitude.

Remember: if you're basically "starting from scratch" as far as learning skills with women, the first step is to enjoy some successful, short interactions. Your confidence level will rise. Those email addresses are going to translate into dates, and each successful date will bring you one step closer to your optimal confidence level.

Then, using the techniques in the Bad Boy Seduction Program, you'll know exactly how to make these women feel "massive attraction" towards you. You're not going to get trapped in the frustrating "Friend Zone". Women will view you as an exciting, sexual, masculine guy.

Good luck out there, and most importantly, HAVE FUN. You really aren't risking anything, and you've got endless possibilities in front of you.

Your Wingman,

Dean Cortez

MackTactics.com

Friday, January 23, 2009

Why Pay for an Online Dating Site?


As the stigma of meeting someone online continues to fade, online dating is growing in popularity. Because of the interest in online dating, there have been dozens of online dating sites started within the last several years. Many of these sites offer matchmaking services for free, while others charge monthly rates.

Before you put your faith in a free site, consider going with a reputable pay site. There are many reasons why putting money down to find love is a good idea.

Paying to join a dating site may seem unnecessary considering that there are many free sites out there seemingly offering the same services. However, if you spend any length of time on free dating sites you'll begin to notice some problems with these services.

The first problem is that a free dating site has to find a way to make money for their time and service. This means that you'll likely be inundated with flashing banners and other ads that the owners are using to make money. A paid site is usually much nicer to look at and less distracting.

Free dating sites are also magnets for frauds. Since they are so easy to join, anyone can sign up, start a profile and then use the dating site's system to meet and then manipulate people into revealing personal information. There are many stories of victims who have been led to believe they were falling in love with someone only to find out that they are being scammed.

With an online dating site, all participants, including you, have to jump through a few hoops in order to get access to other people's profiles. Not only does this minimize the likelihood that the interesting person you're getting to know is there to scam you, but it also lets your potential dates know that you are serious about meeting someone.

When you decide to use a pay site to find a date, you are proving that you are interested in meeting someone and eventually settling down. Just as you should be extra cautious of people you meet on free dating sites, those other people are being extra cautious of you. Paid dating sites put up a few barriers to joining them, so that the people who do have their profiles displayed are serious about being there.

In addition to the monthly fees, other barriers that pay sites put in place can include:
*Questionnaires
*A minimum number of words per profile entry
*A picture

These safeguards ensure that the participants are there for the right reasons. Players, scammers and other undesirable people tend to be filtered out. Most of them either don't want to pay or don't want to take the time to fill out their profile properly. You can weed out at least some of these scammers from your dating pool automatically by joining a paid dating site.

If you're serious about finding someone special in your life, you might find you have more success with a paid reputable dating site but that's not to say that paid sites are always safe. Before you decide on an internet dating service, check to see what kinds of safety measures they have put in place and keep in mind that you will still need to exercise caution and common sense when meeting anyone via the Internet.